You've done porn??

So after digging and digging into the deepest parts of my brain for something to post about tonight, it has finally hit me. Partly from a new found buddy I was texting, and also from a good friends advice question along with the premier of the new season of the Real World that was on tonight.

So yeah, looking back, this topic was just sitting right on the table and I didn't even think to pick it up lol. For the good friend, no names will be named...so I hope it's all good to talk about?

Lets start with my who was seeking advice. For the sake of this blog post I will call him...Enzo [i love that name] and I will call his guy "Ian". So Enzo met Ian not too long ago and I'm not fully sure on where they're at in their relationship or even if it's a legit relationship yet. I do know that they both like each other and they have been out a few times together...and let's face it in the homo world that's all that really needs to happen for you to be 'together' lol jk jk. So recently Enzo was told by Ian that he is into "making movies" and that he even has a couple of them up on xtube. Of course, like any normal person on the planet, Enzo goes and checks them out and discovers that he's not alone in the videos and that it kind of bothers him that he's into making vids and that someone else is in the vids with him. [Side note, Ian and Enzo would be the cutest couple in the planet. I love those names lol ok back on track]

Then there's the real world. I should go google the kids name, but I'm being lazy tonight and you guys know how easily distracted I get so I will call him...Cute Country Guy. So on the Real World there's this Cute Country Guy who is on there and there's was this big like mystery about his past that he kept bringing up and finally they revealed that he used to be on fratpad. For those of you who don't know what frat pad is [shame on you, go to like xtube or xvideos and they always have tons of clips...smh at you non-porn watchers lol jk jk but seriously...go look], it's basically a house full of dudes doing all types of stuff from naked massages and circle jerks and all that homo-erotic [and down right homo] stuff. To me, I assumed all the guys on fratpad were just gay but they said they were straight for the fantasy aspect for the viewers. [Like BrokeStraightGuys] But from what Cute Country Guy says, he's straight. He's the type that is really romantic and into girls but he also admitted to the group that he has kissed a guy before. He followed that by saying that he's very comfortable in his own skin so it wasn't something that bothered him. The thing with him is that he doesn't know how to tell the group that he was on fratpad, and I can kind of understand where he's coming from. He really likes a girl that's in the house and telling her about his porn past could ruin things and could make the house see him differently.

These two situations are pretty different but I see the same thing within both of them. THE PAST. If I were in either situation I would force myself to look at the porn as something they did in the past. That's if the person came to me and I made it clear [if i wasn't into it] that I wouldn't participate or want him to participate in the porn anymore, and they accepted it. If that happened and it still bothered me I would then go into thinking of it as something of the past. Everyone has a sexual past, and the fact that they have video footage of some of their sexual encounters doesn't change the fact that it was in the past. With Cute Country Guy, I would be pissed if the girl got mad at him for doing fratpad. Only because he openly admitted to kissing a guy and being open in that way that it didn't bother him. I know to some people the fact that the guy they like has been with a dude is a turn off, but if a guy told me that he has made out with a girl before I would take that as he could potentially be bi. If the thought of him being bi or the thought of him once having sex with a girl was too much for me to handle I would step back. I wouldn't just be like oh he kissed a girl, i won't even think about the potential sex. I know it's less extreme with a gay guy having sex with a girl bc it's expected...but to some guys who fuck girls are a turn off.

So I guess my question is, if someone who you were seeing told you they once did porn [or made amature videos] would it bother you? With Enzo and Ian, would it bother you that it was something that he enjoyed doing even though you told him you weren't into it and he said ok?

With Cute Country Guy, would it bother you that he did it [and that it was gay stuff, or straight stuff for my homo's] even though he is 100% about it being something in his past and not something he still is trying to pursue?